Saturday, October 29, 2011

Why I Can't Stand Most Korean Owned Beauty Supply Stores.

You know... One thing I cannot stand is how folks set up shop (beauty supplies) which carry mostly African American targeted products and things WE use... in primarily Black communities- yet act like they have no home training when it comes to customer-service or respect for the people whom your business primarily caters to!!! I'm talking about Hair & Wigs Beauty Supply on Crenshaw Blvd. next to 29th and right before Adams in particular, but I know plenty of other supply stores who act a damn fool with Black customers.

I normally go there to pick up my usual 1 or 2 wigs and carry on. Usually it's no issue as the women who usually work here are generally 'ok' in the service department, but when I tell you they have permanently lost my black dollars; I mean it. I drove all the way from Hawthorne to this place because it WAS the only beauty supply I knew I could count on to have a huge variety and in the worst case scenario- at least have a fall back regular style in stock.

I went in here early to pick up a wig and they already were acting like they didn't want to be bothered with servicing the only customer in the store- (me). So I had her put my 'usual' at the front- in case I couldn't pick one of the others. I picked about 3 different styles and couldn't pick which one I liked best or the color I wanted. I tried a wig on that as soon as I put it on I thought to myself 'no-ma'am' and went to take it off, and like clockwork- this lady goes in to comment, "The color not for you (not it's) but it too short for you too- you need longer."

Now let me start by saying one- I am a licensed stylist. In practice or not, trust that I know what does and does not look good on me when it comes to color, cut, and style. However, in this business and line of work- you need to tread lightly on how you go about "recommending" things to people you do not know. The majority of these folks (the korean ones anyway) completely LACK tact in the 'how-to-say-that-with-respect-to-a-potential-customer' department and think you're still going to do business with them. Hell-to-the-NO. If I was a new customer- I'd never spend money there if that was how they react to choices that THEY don't like on you. That is the point of trying the fucking thing on- to see if I like it or not- what you think matters not; That's where THEY fail at majorly. You're here to make money- I'm here to spend money. See the relation in that??? I am not saying let people walk out of your store looking like a damn fool- but until you learn how to tactfully say things- without being offensive or rude; it may just be in your best interest to shut the fuck up and make your coins. Let the customer figure out if they made a bad choice.

Now generally un-asked-for opinions are usually unwelcome in the first place. Often times I go to wig stores with no make up no nothing going on- so I have nothing to play up the do' or no real "color" to my face. Most folks who normally wear a 5 minute face or an all out face of make up- look a bit washed out without make up- so it does nothing for the hairstyle or the color of the hair you're wearing. Which is maybe why she thought I shouldn't or couldn't pull off the color I was looking at- which again is not that far from my natural color.  So I tried on a different wig in a 4, and it was a bit lengthier, but I just wasn't feeling the style and was leaning more toward a different one but in the 4/30 instead of the 1B... I didn't put on a platinum blond wig people- yet she wanna try to go in like that is just a terrible, terrible choice for me.

So I just said- 'I have a license, I know what does and doesn't work for me- thank you. It's not about the "color" right now- it's about the style and cut of the hair.' So I'm already starting to get irritated... Now, I never go too far off from my natural color, but I also wanted to try something a bit different. So as I am trying on a "full" wig (meaning none of my hair will show) in a 4/30 which is a lighter brown with golden tones- this chick want to say, 'I like the other one on you-the color look better, not this color.' Now the 'crazy' in me wanted to snap off, but I just said 'Look- I know what works for me and I do what works for me- THANKS." So she walks away and huffs like I don't know what the hell I'm talking about. Which was rude as hell, and truth be told- I never asked for your opinion on NONE of the mentioned items in the first damn place; So your disagreement with me and/or my choice is a non-muthafucking factor. However, it was a factor in 3 things...

1. The thought that you know what I like-or what looks good on me better than I do.
2. That you could care less if you sold me something today or not.
3. You just KNEW I'd spend my money at your beauty supply regardless of your mannerisms, speech & behavior toward me.


At that point I immediately changed my mind about spending my hard earned cash at this beauty supply, walked straight to the front and told the mid-aged lady who works there in regard to the older one. "I don't want anything- you can put those back and here is a tip for your business, you do not tell people what they should and should not do with THEIR hair and THEIR MONEY. She is rude as hell and I will never spend money here again." Didn't pay the 1$ for the wig cap I used and walked the hell off. Which was justified. As much money as I have spent in this store you should already know I am going to buy something- I didn't come in here to waste your time or kill some of mines by playing with the damn wigs. However, I do not pay for RUDE personal opinions or bad service. More of us need to behave this exact way toward them when they act like that with US. I don't need you shoving anything, or your opinion- I don't and didn't want nor ask for- down my throat because of your ignorant ass perceptions of what the "typical" Black woman wants when it comes to her beauty needs.

I can't speak for all Black women, because truthfully and rightfully everyone doesn't know what looks good on them. Which is why stylist exist... However, when someone is shooing you and your opnions off- it means shut up and leave them alone to make their OWN DAMN CHOICES. :o) As for myself... Whether my hair is long, hella short, layered, flipped out or in a curly fro- my style is fierce baby. I am a rare breed who for the most part can get away with just about any style, length, texture, and "look- No, I'm not cocky that is just the TRUTH... Check my photos. #fashionista

Often times most Blacks put up with these folks because it's close and/or we just need the supplies for that one day not to come back ever again or that often- however, I used to come here almost every 2 or 3 weeks. Black folks need to open up our own beauty supplys and pull the power from those who act like they don't need or want our business. I promise you- it ain't that many non-Blacks coming in here to buy products, make-up, weaving hair, wigs, and/or extensions that are keeping your doors open; It's primarily Blacks keeping your business alive. And that is why I say they need to take back that power and open up their own supply stores so that 1- they'll either up the game on their customer service or 2- get the fuck out of dodge. Either way they get the big middle finger and no more of my money. There way too many beauty supplies in the city of Los Angeles to be RUDE to customers. I  know there ARE supplies that appreciate my Black business and that's where my Black dollars will be.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

I'm So Ready To Move...

I'm so ready to move it's not even funny.

Wednesday, September 14, 2011


Saturday, July 30, 2011

Getting Serious About Weightloss...

Honest feelings about what I am going to do to shed some of this weight :o) See you on the flipside.

Friday, July 29, 2011

Split Grip & Inverting...

Progress... finally got the split grip.

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Poling in July...

yes.. i am still at it.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

I Don't Work For You...

Why do I always have to check people like this?

Tuesday, June 14, 2011


Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Gettin' There...

For those of us who for the most part have begun practicing at home- be discouraged not. I have learned the secrets of my It likes to be warmed up before being touched. She's a funnyl lil' thang. Once she's hot- we can go for hours. LOL
I have been working on my inverting and I am finding the need to "kick off" becoming less and less *see the most latest video for this* Though I still do it, I am finding proper positioning and engaging that core helps. :o) As I have said before, actually seeing that progress is so motivating and another factor for one to keep on going and keep practicing. I love pole! Have any of you recently learned anything special about YOUR pole?

Saturday, May 14, 2011

At Home Polin'

Having a good time... :o)

Friday, May 6, 2011

This Is What Keeps Me Poling...

So.. as some of you've seen, I've put up a video of my first ever unassisted invert (somewhat) that I happened to get on camera. Beyond excited, and as I said legs all wrong but happy just to be upside down. I recall that being just a hope I can do that thing... And a few weeks ago- couldn't even get my legs ON the pole... This happening showed me that all this practice, even if it's just a try a day, that progress is made; even if it is just small. Small turns into medium and eventually large. I do believe that we all get stuck in a rut at one point that makes us question whether we'll advance anymore, but I have always relied on the knowledge that somethings will come easy, others will require work/more strength and eventually I'll be working on perfecting it.

What I am working on conquering is this sweaty palm problem. Though I from time to time HAVE to use gloves, I want to be able to pole without them. I read in a forum posting that just somewhat going through the drama of dealing with the sweat you'll eventually not have the issue... I just don't like feeling like I am going to fly off the pole especially having weight on me... I can feel what i have a wonderful grip from the initial grab... but I'd like to not have to wipe the pole down every few seconds. *smh* We shall see...
I think it's the milestones such as finally achieving the chair spin, being able to climb all the way to the top, and the first invert unassisted and somewhat getting it... on my own- that keeps me going and willing to go to another class, practice a little bit more, or try one more time- because you just never know when you'll nail it. To those trying to get to the next level...just keep doing what you're doing and work on the technique of achieving the moves and one day... even if ever so slightly, you'll be able to do it... :o)
Happy Poling- Nikki

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Look What I Did Today...

All by myself! This is the first time I've been able to get all this butt up on the pole for an Legs was all wrong, but uhhh we'll correct that shortly. I was just happy to be upside down on the pole and caught it on camera... This is the rush that keeps us trying; The knowing that ONE DAY we'll be able to do "that"... AHHHHH! Enjoy. :o)

Monday, April 25, 2011

The Beauty & Challenges of Plus-Sized Poling...

Okay so i am a bit over 200 lbs... carried very well in my humble opinion, but of course with being plus sized comes beauty and challenges. Though poling as an art wows me regardless I must be honest when i say a woman swinging 170+ and is not 5'10+ around a pole is something that REALLY amazes me. First, the strength required to perform the moves is for the most part doubled and the determination/will to WANT to and do it is immeasurable. I'm not saying slim chicks have it all easy because just like dancing some people do have 2 left feet no matter what... but determination is what makes learning doable. Hey- Janet Jackson was once the stiffest dancer you could think of. LOL This particular sport/art is something that carries it challenges for us larger ladies simply because of larger/chunkier/bigger/ meatier anatomy... I prefer to call it fluffy. :o)

Either way- here is some of the challenges/accomplishments I've dealt with & seen myself being a plus sized poler...

1. The period where it seems like you just cannot do anything that required upper-body/core strength. I still have those moments, but I just keep in the back of my head.. I just can't do it YET... I will though.

2. Spins that do not last long at all... seems like you just stepped and jumped... lol

3. That first time learning the "basic" climb and just staring at the pole like..."how am i gonna get 'this" up there??? o_O *lol* Then attempting it only to basically just step up and get right back down...

4. Being the ONLY plus sized poler in class and feeling left out because I couldn't do "that spin" because it required some arm strength I just DIDN'T have (yet) to get this body around the pole...

5. My arch nemesis spin conquered 2 months down the road... After seemingly everyone else got it on their first try. Damn you chair spin... Damn you. O_o

6. Trying to perform a climb and "sitting lady".. Ummm yeah my thighs are a little big.. I'm having a hard time crossing my legs here *LOL*... I can now though...

7. Doing a figure 4 leg hold and leaning back thinking 'Oh hell yeah'.. I GOT THIS.

So today was one of those accomplishment days... A damn good practice if I say so myself. I got to "show" a fellow plus sized poler- hey we can do this too... I saw the very same look of "I don't know if I can do this"  on her face I once had... So I showed her how to do a move she was struggling with (she's completely new to poling) I gave quick and basic explanation- It's just going to take a little more work, building strength, but you WILL get it. as long as you keep at it.
I also was able to climb the pole to the top a few times with out last 5 minutes of "dowatchalike" time and it was kinda nice for a change to just DO IT. Regardless of weight.. it was pure practice- gaining in strength- and determination... If you want to learn it, you'll learn it. No matter what your size.. Just keep at it. 

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Even Polers Have Gripes...

Ehhhh so I am still poling and have sacrificed something I hold near and dear to my heart... I even PRIDE myself on having a lovely, soft pair of hands... BUT NO MORE says the pole. lol I HATE HATE HATE the calloused hands part and I am PRAYING that it gets better with time. Please someone say it's  going to get better... Pretty please.. i'll buy you some Coldstone ice cream. *smh* wink
Either way, my true gripe is here; the other day I had a class in which had anyone else not shown up it would have pretty much been a private session. However, someone did show up- a chick that had fell off the pole the previous Saturday because she was in a beginner/intermediate transitioning class and has practically NEVER taken more than 2 classes but told the instructor she was intermediate level. So before class even starts this girl out the gate is complaining to the instructor about how much her back hurts, and my thoughts were "if my back was hurting that damn bad- I wouldn't bring my butt into a class again until it let up or I went to see a doctor"... BUT the instructor gave her a brief fill-in on the normal pains for the people who just started poling, and also informed her that she knows her body best and should know if something is truly wrong. pumpkin
So instead of playing it smart- she decides she wants to stick around and now we have to take it 10 notches down based on this girl is hurting and also has NO CLUE of how to execute anything. Through the whole class she's continually whining about her arm, which is related to her back and on top of this- knowing none of the moves... And I quote, "can you show me how to do that again?"      >:o/
Now, I ain't gonna lie... I was hella irritated because I don't pay for "unlimited classes" to have someone who needs to be in an INTRO class to show up and slow down a whole session. Yes, we've all been out of place and/or not up to par, but you know as a beginner you're not ready for ADVANCED tricks... I have even seen some of the people who skip intro and come straight into beginners go back and take intro's so they can get a good grasp on what they'll be doing and I can respect that. I took intro classes because didn't want to be "that girl" who just couldn't keep up in a "beginners" class and that is why I took a few intros before moving up. Hell- the studio offers an INTRO Package CHEAP!!! (4 intro classes with shoes) just so you ARE familiar with the basic moves before moving up to full-on beginner level. 
I honestly felt VERY cheated out of a poling session. I felt someone should have been dismissed & compensated in some shape or form. If I was the instructor she would have been sent home on account of 2 factors. First, you sound like you are either in too much pain to fully participate or you've been injured. Meaning, you're not in optimal condition to be swinging off a pole- no matter how bad you want to learn. You should go home and rest up your pains and/or go see a doctor. Secondly, after seeing how badly she bombed on the most basic spins in the first 10 minutes of actually poling (and I'm not talking about "oh we're trying to learn" bombing) I mean damn near falling off the pole hurting herself worse- bombing. Unsure of foot placement etc...should have been referred to an intro class. This could have played out 2 ways in my mind...
If I was an instructor I would have said to her, "You seem to be in a bit of pain so I am going to suggest you schedule class at a later time when your back is better or you've have seen a doctor to ensure all is okay. I am also seeing that you're struggling with the basic concepts of how to execute these moves, so we will finish up this session, but I would recommend you take at least 2 or 3 intro to pole classes. I  am suggesting this because they are more broken down and you'll be able to get a better understanding on how these moves are accomplished. You'll also be more prepared and able to keep up when you come to the next beginners class."
Second scenario:  Being that I had to almost stand around while she went through intro type explanations with this girl... The least the instructor could have let me do- based on the majority of time was spent showing 'the basics' to the other girl... was say if there was an opening for the next pole class- stick around and take that one instead. 
YEAH YEAH YEAH we were all complete "pole virgins" once, but I paid my dues in intro-  I'm not saying I'm better than or looking down on the girl, but my time and money are not on the list of thing I like to waste... You don't just jump in the deep end of the pool not knowing how to swim; that's all I'm sayin'.  confused

Friday, April 8, 2011

Regular 'Ol Workout Revelation...

Yesterday I attended a small group personal training session at the place where I practice pole and I was immediately reminded on why I prefer pole workouts. I just do not like the "workout" (hell I don't like anything that feels like exercise to be it's almost too damn strenuous for no damn reason. I'm not a fan of running number uno because i'm not running around with 34 A/B cups. I am a D/DD cup... So between running, jumping jacks, and other things that make the girls flop all over.. I am holding my chest the entire time. Even when my sports bra doubled down. It's just very uncomfortable.
Yeah, I'm good and sweaty after the workout but can't I get some of the same results without the stress? Yep- I sure can. I may not see the results as fast, but I just can't get with it. I've got a bad knee and a back that ain't so great so all of this jump, get down push up and repeat all the way down the hall stuff is for the birds. I went through bootcamp and know what I used to be able to do, and these days I cannot do it. Well- I probably could, but I will NOT put myself through any uneeded/uneccesary pain, uncomfortableness etc just to say "I tough it out" or "I workout hard" , It's just not good for my current physical situation after the military... Not for the joints, knees or back. I'd rather do a bunch of crunches/sit-ups on a stable foot hold and push an elliptical for 45 minutes to an hour... "manual workouts" are not for me. It also helped me re-realize that pole just does not feel like a workout at all (while it very much is) and that's what I LOVE most about it. Maybe the fact that I know it is a workout but doesn't feel like one is why I haven't stopped showing up, don't get tired of doing it, look forward to, and enjoy doing it.

When I got home later that night I pondered going to the "workout" session at least once a week, but then I thought about how much I truly disliked it and said the hell with what THEY think- cancelled all of those classes and scheduled pole classes instead. I do not regret it one bit nor do I feel like I am cheating myself out of a "better workout". I'm sure some folks might look at me like "I can't hang" lol and that's okay... I'd rather get my excercise "hanging" on a pole. #ohwell

That's my look when doing regular exercise.... Is it done yet? This is boring as hell.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Pole Dancin' (Week 4)...

Totally addicting... Enjoy. :o)

Wednesday, March 9, 2011


It's time for people to move on and around... #Letsgo..

Thursday, March 3, 2011

PSA; Unwanted Reporting...

Stop reporting to people when you see other folks they don't speak to... Most folks don't care. That is all.

Pole Dancin' (Week 1)

Getting it in... Let's Go!

Friday, February 11, 2011

Get Your Money Right...

At it TOUGH with this MacBook.... However it felt HELLA GOOD to pay for it Cash.. you ZEET??? Enjoy this on the finances!

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Punk Ass People

People get on my damn nerves...

Saturday, February 5, 2011

Friday, January 7, 2011

Week One Down...

I am finally at my first weekend for relaxin'... Nice place to work and may be even better in the long run.. Hmmm.

Monday, January 3, 2011

At The Job... Day 1...

Finally at the job.. Whew!

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Final Day... Thoughts.

Tomorrow.. is the DAY. YEAH BOYEEEE!!!

PC vs. MAC: The Decision...

Today, I stopped by the Apple Store to browse... I must admit I have been doing some research on the computers and am growing more interested as I learn more about them. My eyes loomed over the beautifully crafted-yet simplified machinery. I asked a billion questions as I played with the magic mouse and the trackpad; closing 4 applications with one four-fingered claw swipe. As I sifted through applications, and looked at what was included versus, what I'd have to buy; I couldn't help but realize how much money I've wasted on Windows based machines. Although I love my Windows XP OS... because frankly-it's just the SHIT::: The computer itself has served it's purpose for many years (since 2002 to be exact) It is just time to replace it.

When I began attending school in June of 2008, the whopping 40GB on my archaic Gateway desktop was not nearly enough to handle much more abuse of the average PC user, so I bought an HP laptop with crap-ass Vista as it's OS, which died on me about a year and a half later. So I had to resurrect the desktop which had done it's thing for the past 6 years to complete the last 5 courses of school-work, internet research and final observation essays. Let's just say-music addition and current performance takes PATIENCE. You can plug and play items and hear the connection chime minutes after the item has been connected ok!? Though I generally have been using it for resume submission, facebookin', and simple surfing, it's not fun to watch a YouTube video that has to buffer every few seconds, or the quality of the stream simply is not be up to par. I'd rather watch YouTube on my iPhone. O_o

I'm no super MODDER but I have no need to ultimately customize my OS's anymore. Linux Ubuntu is not neccesary for me. However, I've realized I am over the Windows platform for personal use. I am sick of updates, patches, fixes, anti-virus software, and tired of spending dollar on top of dollar on PC's in which performance dramatically decreases, or plain become grade 'A' crap- 1 year down the road. What about most compatibility issues? Well, from what I see and have researched, with the MAC, most compatibility issues are from programs the average PC user doesn't use anyhow so I could care less.

Bottom Line: I just want a machine that does what I need it to do, without a steady decline in performance and speed. I'll take the added bonus that the MAC just happens to look nice too. So people, I have made the decision to start ANEW... Yes, I will be getting an iMAC. I am so in love. *sigh*

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Happy New Year People!!!

Thank you for viewing. Even though my numbers are small.. I appreciate even my smallest audience.