Monday, August 24, 2009

Out Of The Loop & 1 Item Beauty...

Sorry I have been MIA for a bit folks... but I am back. As you see the title says out of the loop, and I did want to go over a small but important factor in daily rituals of beauty. It is okay to be out of the loop sometimes when it comes to a routine- especially if it's almost daily. Now that may vary when it comes to dieting/excercise and things of that nature- you know your habits when it comes to those things, but I am speaking beauty regimen. Don't be ashamed of your natural beauty, and be too into the makeup bag to allow for a day or two to be out of the loop. I recall a period where I thought almost everyday was somewhat like I HAD to wear some kind of makeup, but even there still never allow yourself to get so used to looking like your "madeup" self that you forget what you do REALLY look like, and be able to love it just as much. I have actually gotten some alter-ego mentality going when I have some "off" days... Granted the "other me" doesn't have a different name, it's just when I see people out and about they look like- Wow, she does exist...lol As much as I love to get made up, and change up my looks, there are days I am plain too lazy to put in the time to apply everything, or anything at all. And I smile in the mirror because I look fine without it. It also allows my skin re-coup to get gunk out my pores, and skin a good breath of unbothered air... One trick that I do have up my sleeve that makes you "look" made up without much of anything. Are you ready for it? You only need 3 things... Please tell me you're really ready... OK... here goes: A pair of lovely lashes (they do not have to be dramamtic at all), lash glue and some tweezers (to apply)! Believe it or not, on a day when I do not feel like applying makeup, but i want a 'feminine' touch... I slap on a pair of falsies, and look all made up simply because my lashes are all prim and lucious... The best part it is takes all of 2 minutes. Don't believe me? Try it... WITH NO MAKEUP- only lashes and you'll have your almost favorite makeup look: None... I call it the Just Lashes look!!! People will be so drawn to looking at your lashes they do not recall you had NOTHING else on... Hmmmm...

If you could only take one makeup item with you for a month long trip, which/what would you take? Mine would definitely be a pair of Lashes.. NO DOUBT.

Until Next Time...

Monday, August 10, 2009

A Shared Response...(Relationships)

Read a post not too long ago which was the things "men hate that women do"...(And she says.. blog- Bella) On this is I found things like...


- "for me the most annoying thing is a girl who is overly clingy or needy, yet untrusting. like they want u to call 3x a day but if that doesnt go down then they assume the worst and dude is always working to prove something."

- a female with no confidence

- "I dunno that's a difficult one cuz uwant attitude but then u don't want no stank attitude and u don't want super friendly."
"you know what I hate is when they get mad cuz we not spending enough "time" like I'm busy Im not even wit other gurls, just busy. this new level of selfishness I'm so unfamilar with it, like if I like u we gone chill relax! Why we gotta be together EVERY minute?"

Now to chop it up...I responded just like this:
We can let this digest and regurgitate it, and everyone will have their own interpretation of what they got going on in their relationships... True as some men and I say SOME for a reason may be because it is out of the horses.. aka men's mouths. I wouldn't dare call a man a dog. Dog's are actually loyal.*lol*
Anyway, I agree we need to look within if we find ourselves in the same situations, because usually you know BS when you see, smell or step in it. Whether you choose to deal with it or not is entirely up to you. Too often dudes take it upon themselves to make the choice for the woman to deal with his bullshit... that's when the questioning, clingy stuff, and nagging begins. Women are not dolls in boxes you choose to take down and play with when you're ready. If you wanna do your thing, that is all to the goodie, but don't get mad when she's doing her thing too, or try to act like ya'll exclusive and got her waiting at home while you're doing your thing.
I feel a mutual level of respect keeps both parties from getting their wired crossed. Which for some reason men always seem to lack. Don't get me wrong, females do it too, but men are(usually) the main problem in the relationship. (And as Kelis gracefully put it.. it takes two to tango when cheating- Blame them hoes that knew about you and still decided to mess with him.. and his ass for allowing it) Sorry, that's just how goes it.
What most fucked off relationships are missing is that one key point: COMMUNICATION. Period. When you say exactly what you mean, and your actions say the same- there is no room for misunderstandings. Don't sleep with a dude on the first night and not expect him to think you do it often. Don't tell the girl you don't want nothing serious, then wanna hang all up under her, worried about how many numbers she got, or who she fukkin'... IOW- If you didn't want nothing serious, don't front like you do (verbally or non verbally) If your ass ain't gonna show up til 5pm... say so don't tell my ass 2 and have me waiting on you. If you wanna see other people... say so- so she's am not missing out on Ruth Chris with someone who CAN afford it...lol though I can take myself.. i'm just sayin'... yet again waiting on your ass.
Whether they want to admit it or not, they know you can almost ALWAYS do better than them, because womens options are always more than mens(and they hate that shit because they are trying to pick and choose and compare at ALL times...).... unless his ass look like Halle Berry or some shit.
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Niks

Sunday, August 2, 2009

Does Your Inner Beauty Match The Outer???

There has been a thought that I have had often times, and I am now going to pose it. How many times have you seen someone male or female and said to your self, "She's really pretty, but her attitude makes her not so cute..." or "He's ok looking but he has a great personality"? Now generally this type of comment sits with a female being cute, but a nasty attitude can put a dimmer on her beauty. However, I have noticed a woman that may not be over the top beautiful "looks wise" but has an outstanding personality and a great aura about herself outshines plain pretty any day. Does your inner attitude match your outer beauty? There have been many time where I have been nasty acting with an attitude, and noticed it didn't get me anywhere. Of course this is when I was younger, but now that I have grown up, I realize that we must project the energy we want in return. Granted this energy is not 100% fool-proof, because there will be some unwanted attention, or whatnot, but the woman in you will definitely know which battles to let be, and nasty attitude battles are one of them. Allowing yourself to see the sunshine in almost any situation and remaining positive in a bunch of negativity... Show the world your beauty, confidence and talent in a humble manner... That is when true beauty shines. Again I ask, does your inner beauty shine as much as your outer?

Until next time...